Comments on: The Ghost of Failures Past http://www.realeffectivecoaching.com/uncategorized/the-ghost-of-failures-past/ Champaign Urbana Business and Life Coaching Wed, 22 Jun 2011 22:42:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Marianne http://www.realeffectivecoaching.com/uncategorized/the-ghost-of-failures-past/comment-page-1/#comment-25 Marianne Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:09:16 +0000 http://www.realeffectivecoaching.com/?p=216#comment-25 Rob, Great question!! To take inventory I mean for example, when a department store spends days and days going over every single item and its cost and worth because they can't afford to lose a dollar here or 30 cents there. Its like that with us when we fail, we can't afford to miss something that was our fault, our character, our part. Otherwise we have a huge blind spot that will lead us to repeat the same horrible mistakes over and over and over again like in the movie Groundhog Day. So we have to take stock of our failures by evaluating what was our part, what is our character flaw. For example, people might make rude comments to me and I might react. Well they were rude, right. But perhaps I am overly sensitive and don't realize it. So I can work on not letting people's comments get to me. I can even get to the point where I welcome them and even laugh at rude people instead of internalizing it. To get past it quickly I mean some people can spend a lifetime beating themselves up over a failure. This leads nowhere. It is better to say I did this wrong and I will improve in this way and I am moving forward with my life! Hope this helps! The Author Marianne Rob,
Great question!! To take inventory I mean for example, when a department store spends days and days going over every single item and its cost and worth because they can’t afford to lose a dollar here or 30 cents there. Its like that with us when we fail, we can’t afford to miss something that was our fault, our character, our part. Otherwise we have a huge blind spot that will lead us to repeat the same horrible mistakes over and over and over again like in the movie Groundhog Day. So we have to take stock of our failures by evaluating what was our part, what is our character flaw. For example, people might make rude comments to me and I might react. Well they were rude, right. But perhaps I am overly sensitive and don’t realize it. So I can work on not letting people’s comments get to me. I can even get to the point where I welcome them and even laugh at rude people instead of internalizing it. To get past it quickly I mean some people can spend a lifetime beating themselves up over a failure. This leads nowhere. It is better to say I did this wrong and I will improve in this way and I am moving forward with my life! Hope this helps!
The Author Marianne

]]> By: rob http://www.realeffectivecoaching.com/uncategorized/the-ghost-of-failures-past/comment-page-1/#comment-21 rob Sun, 17 Jan 2010 21:17:28 +0000 http://www.realeffectivecoaching.com/?p=216#comment-21 What does "take inventory, make notes, get past it quickly" mean. I love the article and agree with it in principle, but am not sure I ever really get over failure and hurts. I forgive, I try my best next time, but a chunk of my soul has still been ripped out. Maybe you could expound on this for me at some point. Keep up the good work, Rob What does “take inventory, make notes, get past it quickly” mean.

I love the article and agree with it in principle, but am not sure I ever really get over failure and hurts. I forgive, I try my best next time, but a chunk of my soul has still been ripped out. Maybe you could expound on this for me at some point.

Keep up the good work,

Rob

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