What does it mean to fail? We often define it by our circumstances. If you lose a job, close your business, don’t hear back from the interview, go through a divorce aren’t these classic failures.
How about bankruptcy? But wait, a failure is defined by you and how you interpret what happened. Life doesn’t stop here. Consider your on a learning curve.
Let us redefine failure. Failure is when you shut down as a human being and give up on yourself and what is possible for your life.
What are you telling yourself these circumstances mean? What meaning are you giving to these events? Self-defeating talk never gets anyone to move forward.
We can figure out how we got here and where we need to go next. Did your marriage fail because you are too ______. Perhaps, but you can change that for the next time. Did my business fail because I didn’t do X enough? Maybe, but do not dwell on what went wrong.
The quality of one’s life is determined by how well we solve our problems. All of life holds challenges for us. We need to become better problem solvers and not bury ourselves in failure talk.
Resilancy, buoyancy, this is what we need here. Don’t break under the weight of this, instead bounce back. Be gentle and kind to yourself. Consider looking at things in a new light.
Look at yourself in the mirror and face what you must change. Like the song by Michael Jackson says, “I am starting with the man in the mirror. I am asking him to change his ways.” “I have been a victim of a selfish kind of love.” Examine how we have been selfish, admit our wrongs and move on from them.
If you can’t see yourself realistically you may need some help, a coach, a counselor or a confidant. These things didn’t just happen to you. You had some role in it, some part in it. Face it and go on.
Failure at one thing could mean you are in the wrong spot in your life. You would be much better at doing something else or heading another direction altogether.
But only realistic assessment and evaluation of yourself will determine this. If you don’t face the absolute worst of yourself you see in that mirror you are bound to keep being that way in all of life and wonder why things never work out.
What if there were no FEAR of FAILURE? What would you go for in life? Go ahead and take the biggest risk imaginable to you. Fear of failure is simply the self trying to protect itself from self-rejection. Now isn’t that silly.
Don’t ever reject yourself and there will be no failure. What if you couldn’t fail? Most people fail because of lack of planning or because of the fear of failure itself.
We can talk about how you can set yourself up to possibly never fail at what you want most in your life. KISS THE FEAR OF FAILURE GOODBYE! Talk to a certified and trained coach today.
Marianne loves to help people reach their goals: through direction, accountability, and years of experiencing what works and what doesn't.
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No fear. I can attest that shutting down and quitting on life is failure (been there and done that). Risking rejection and failure is like reaching out toward the hot stove after you have been burned. But without the heat, you can never bake the cookies. I like cookies.
I enjoyed this article. Sometimes, we are our own worst enemy!