The Kings Speech: Dealing with Family Matters

The Kings Speech: Dealing with Family Matters

The Kings Speech: Dealing with Family Matters


Recently I saw the movie called The Kings Speech  and it spoke to me about family matters or the roles we play in our family.  Colin Furth played the youngest son of King George in England in 1934.


He has a severe problem stuttering and has been to see everyone and is practically incurable. He needs to give public speeches and is feeling very stuck with his limitations at performing his role in life.  He goes to see someone different to create a breakthrough.


You see him breakdown when he is given the title of King.  He feels completely inadequate to the task and says,  “I can’t be King.”  Ever feel like there is something your called to in life that you just don’t think your capable of it?


His therapist takes him back to remember what happened that caused this.  He realizes his father and his brother treated him poorly as he grew up stuttering.  As a result he has created for himself a way of being that is limiting him in life.


He tells himself He can’t do it because he was made fun of early on in life by those closest to him.  We may live in the shadow of our family and roles we acquired when we were young.  As an adult it is important to come into our own and recognize who we are in spite of these roles.  We don’t have to take them on for the rest of our lives.


The past is in the past when we put it there.  He has the most powerful breakthrough when his therapist speaks the truth over him.  Berty, you don’t have to be afraid of the things you were afraid of when you were five.  YOUR VERY MUCH YOUR OWN MAN. He had outgrown his role and was VERY POWERFUL, BUT HE STILL THOUGHT LIKE WHEN HE WAS SMALL.  This made him stuck.


Another powerful transformation takes place in the movie when he keeps going back and forth between breakthroughs and the fear of not being able to speak in public.  His therapist pushes his buttons when he shuts down and provokes him to declare, “I don’t want to be king and I don’t have a voice.”


The therapist makes him angry and gets him to shout out by asking him, who are you really?  He SCREAMS OUT IN DECLARATION, “I am YOUR KING AND I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HEARD.  I HAVE A VOICE.”


Perhaps this was the DEFINING MOMENT for him because as a child he felt he didn’t have the RIGHT to be heard.  He goes on to give the most powerful speech in history.


He had to shift himself first to believe it was possible for him to do it.  He gives the wartime speech, “In this grave hour, perhaps the most fateful in our history we are at war…” A DEFINING MOMENT as his speech was able to INSPIRE OTHERS IN THEIR MOMENTS OF FEAR during the dark days of war with Germany.


He had to first PUSH PAST HIS OWN FEARS TO BE ABLE TO INSPIRE OTHERS.  I think we can all relate.  This movie gave me food for thought about my own life.  When I tell myself I CAN’T DO IT.  I remember this was something I learned as a child and it is not REALLY WHO I AM AS AN ADULT.


Lets go on and create for ourselves and those around us OUR OWN DEFINING MOMENTS. Let us step up to the BATTLE AND inspire those in our lives by who we choose to be.

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